Be Yourself
I, for one, hear this a lot. I hear it when I ask for advice, when I am nervous about an interview, and when I am preping for a presentation. Be yourself. It hardly means anything anymore
It means do what comes naturally then not regretting it later. Even if your reaction to the unexpected is the most... unfavorable reaction, it was what you have learned to do.
If something overwhelms you, what is your first instinct? Is it to bottle up, to get angry, to lash out, to blame others, to blame yourself, or just scream?
For me being overwhelmed leads to crying. I was at work once when something just totally flew out of control and I felt tears welling up .I have learned not to regret this course of action. The worst thing that could happen is that they would think I am someone who gets overwhelmed and cries. So what? I am. I am not going to pretend to be someone I am not.
This applies to other situations too. Don't be embarrassed if you don't know how to act at a fancy dinner party, or realize that you overreacted to a jabbing joke.
The reason you do what you do is because you have learned it from some place. You aren't wrong. Sure, you can learn new mechanisms if the old ones don't work, but for now, don't second guess your reactions.
Today, stop regretting being yourself
It means do what comes naturally then not regretting it later. Even if your reaction to the unexpected is the most... unfavorable reaction, it was what you have learned to do.
If something overwhelms you, what is your first instinct? Is it to bottle up, to get angry, to lash out, to blame others, to blame yourself, or just scream?
For me being overwhelmed leads to crying. I was at work once when something just totally flew out of control and I felt tears welling up .I have learned not to regret this course of action. The worst thing that could happen is that they would think I am someone who gets overwhelmed and cries. So what? I am. I am not going to pretend to be someone I am not.
This applies to other situations too. Don't be embarrassed if you don't know how to act at a fancy dinner party, or realize that you overreacted to a jabbing joke.
The reason you do what you do is because you have learned it from some place. You aren't wrong. Sure, you can learn new mechanisms if the old ones don't work, but for now, don't second guess your reactions.
Today, stop regretting being yourself
Work Vs. Play
Have you ever heard the phrase, "do what you love and you'll never have to work a day in your life?" Well, no one I ever cared about told that to me. My sensible family of meager beginnings told me to work hard for a living because life is hard. There is no getting by easy in this world. Everyone works as hard as they can, and what separates the good from the bad is not the will to work, but the ability to really do so.
What happened to me is probably what happened to most people. I have a job I am good at, but hobbies that define me.
So what do you do? What part of your life defines you? It is okay if it isn't your job, a vast majority of us have a 9-5 to pay off student loans and shelter for the people we love. What isn't okay is having nothing that defines you.
Today's goal is to do something. No, don't just do your job, do something that is meaningful to who you are.
What happened to me is probably what happened to most people. I have a job I am good at, but hobbies that define me.
So what do you do? What part of your life defines you? It is okay if it isn't your job, a vast majority of us have a 9-5 to pay off student loans and shelter for the people we love. What isn't okay is having nothing that defines you.
Today's goal is to do something. No, don't just do your job, do something that is meaningful to who you are.
One Simple Idea: book review
I picked up One Simple Idea by Stephen Key because it was recommended to me by Tim Ferriss in The 4 Hour Work Week. I immediatly didn't like it because the preface indicated that the author was prompted to write the book after the success that he gained after Tim Ferriss took his class. I suppose there are some people that really make a difference in this world.
What it's about
Stephen Key's philosophy is that one can become rich, not by making a product, but by thinking of it then selling it. The bulk of the work is getting a company to buy it. He makes his money off of royalties and licensing.
Why it inspires
This book made me want to do something. I wanted to go to the mall and watch people buy things, chat up store clerks and figure out what people actually want to buy. It made me want to be an inventor. I wanted to start a design company and cold call companies.
This book is equal parts encouraging and resourceful. It builds you up, telling you that anyone can do this, and then gives you the tools. The only downside is that the tools are a real bummer. Key doesn't lie, its a lot of hard work to play with the big boys and market to large companies. To be inspired you had to shift through 150 pages of procedure on the best way to protect your ideas and what items to put in your negotiation clauses. It wasn't what I bargained for. However, I was convinced at the end that it only took 150 pages of knowledge to start my new dream of being an inventor.
Who might be interested
Someone who has a lot of ideas but is hesitant about pitching them.
Someone who has one idea and doesn't have the resources to build it.
Someone interested in starting a business and wants to learn about another type of entrepreneurship
Overall I think this book had a rather high rate of return. I read it in a few days and in return I was empowered with entreprenueral spirit. People on Amazon seem to think so too, so far it has been getting 100% 5 star reviews.
Interested? Buy it online here
Do you make your friends jealous?
I was sitting at a local coffee shop the other day when I started idly flipping through some glossy magazines. That's when I stumbled upon a Cosmo Quiz called "Do you make your friends Jealous". I took the quiz to find out that yes, I do make my friends jealous.
This quiz comes from a place of deep negativity. Someone out there was jealous of a friend and decided to make this quiz. Instead of blaming him/herself for their own lack of self worth, they blamed their friend for being so successful.
The quiz suggested that I should try to commiserate more, share my deep insecurities, and be willing to be a shoulder to cry on. My response is no. I will not bring my entire life down, my entire self worth down, in order to keep weak friends.
The lesson is twofold. First, don't relish in your own misery, and especially not in others. Every experience you have creates the landscape of your life. It doesn't do you any justice to take part in sadness theater. Second, are friends that don't want you to be happy and self confident worth it? Was this magazine worth it?
Today, make your friends jealous
This quiz comes from a place of deep negativity. Someone out there was jealous of a friend and decided to make this quiz. Instead of blaming him/herself for their own lack of self worth, they blamed their friend for being so successful.
The quiz suggested that I should try to commiserate more, share my deep insecurities, and be willing to be a shoulder to cry on. My response is no. I will not bring my entire life down, my entire self worth down, in order to keep weak friends.
The lesson is twofold. First, don't relish in your own misery, and especially not in others. Every experience you have creates the landscape of your life. It doesn't do you any justice to take part in sadness theater. Second, are friends that don't want you to be happy and self confident worth it? Was this magazine worth it?
Today, make your friends jealous
If you build it, they will come
Have you ever been left with a dozen steaks on the grill, a big cake, and no one at your birthday party? It stings, doesn't it? Its the feeling of wanting the public's approval, but not getting it. It's putting your heart and soul out there for others, and not getting the recognition you expected and perhaps even deserved. Maybe not everyone has felt that feeling.
Okay, I get it. You were popular and no one ever let you down. You got all the love you needed. You still need this lesson too.
Every project requires someone to carry it through, and someone to appraise it. This lesson is about that other side of the coin. Once you have build it, how will the audience judge it?
If I build it, they will come.
Go ahead and start that blog, build that prototype, and plan that party. Have faith that your good intentions will be received well. You can not control how other people perceive you or your work, but you can put your best foot forward and think positively.
Okay, I get it. You were popular and no one ever let you down. You got all the love you needed. You still need this lesson too.
Every project requires someone to carry it through, and someone to appraise it. This lesson is about that other side of the coin. Once you have build it, how will the audience judge it?
If I build it, they will come.
Go ahead and start that blog, build that prototype, and plan that party. Have faith that your good intentions will be received well. You can not control how other people perceive you or your work, but you can put your best foot forward and think positively.
I am _________
What do you do? Is that all you do? Does it describe who you are? What gets in the way of you doing your job?
When we were children, we were asked what we wanted to be when we grew up. We had no idea that being a doctor was more than saving lives, it was also paperwork and long hours. We had no idea that being a lawyer had more reading and documenting than court appearances and speeches. We had no idea being an engineer was more about interpersonal relations and team building than it was about math and product design.
The truth is that our jobs can still be everything we dreamed they could be. We just have to overlook the things that don't matter. Does a catty co-worker get into your head? Remind yourself that you aren't there to be thier friend, you are there to do your job. Look past the bureaucracy, the difficult social interactions, and focus on the math, or the writing, your passion, and your purpose.
So fill in the blank. What do you do? What is your purpose?
Today's affirmation: I am a _____________
When we were children, we were asked what we wanted to be when we grew up. We had no idea that being a doctor was more than saving lives, it was also paperwork and long hours. We had no idea that being a lawyer had more reading and documenting than court appearances and speeches. We had no idea being an engineer was more about interpersonal relations and team building than it was about math and product design.
The truth is that our jobs can still be everything we dreamed they could be. We just have to overlook the things that don't matter. Does a catty co-worker get into your head? Remind yourself that you aren't there to be thier friend, you are there to do your job. Look past the bureaucracy, the difficult social interactions, and focus on the math, or the writing, your passion, and your purpose.
So fill in the blank. What do you do? What is your purpose?
Today's affirmation: I am a _____________
Take Chances
Some people live in their comfort zones and lead wonderful lives. These people found a way to pay for a modest living with a job washing dishes, some live with their parents well into their 30's. Is that you? Well, I am not putting you down, there is nothing wrong with that lifestyle.
But doesn't it get boring? You don't want to look back on your life and wonder what you could have been, do you?
Today find an area of your life where you are comfortable, and take a chance to improve yourself. Challenge yourself to take the next step. Have you had the same job title for the last six years? Ask for new responsibilities. Are you afraid of starting that business? Go ahead and take that first step. Whats the worst that can happen?
But doesn't it get boring? You don't want to look back on your life and wonder what you could have been, do you?
Today find an area of your life where you are comfortable, and take a chance to improve yourself. Challenge yourself to take the next step. Have you had the same job title for the last six years? Ask for new responsibilities. Are you afraid of starting that business? Go ahead and take that first step. Whats the worst that can happen?
Appreciation
Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well. - Volitaire.
Appreciation goes both ways. Sure, give honest, sincere, compliments to those you notice, but you also got to learn how to take a compliments. Appreciate your compliment. Don't shrug it off. Gracefully accept and take a moment to savor the love today.
Appreciation goes both ways. Sure, give honest, sincere, compliments to those you notice, but you also got to learn how to take a compliments. Appreciate your compliment. Don't shrug it off. Gracefully accept and take a moment to savor the love today.
Women Who Love too Much
What it's about
This non-fiction is a self help by exposition. The story is driven by the tales of many women who have somehow contributed to their own demise by pursuing and falling for toxic men. The stories are dramatic, but not extraordinary. The author presents them in a way that exposes relationship follies that we make in our own, healthy relationships. We are able to make the conclusions by ourselves, but she also creates a take-away checklist at the end, giving us a few cardinal rules of relationships.
Why it inspires
Women often blame men for their crappy lives. Norwood's book tells us that perhaps it is our own toxicity that is causing our crappy lives. She does it meaningfully and gently, allowing everyone to take away a positive message. It is not just a guide on how to break up a toxic relationship, it could also inspire growth in a healthy relationship by allowing us to recognize our toxic behaviors
Who might be interested
Women in relationships. All women in relationships, especially those that use their relationships like drugs. You don't need to want the change to benefit from this book.
I found this to be an excellent read myself.
Interested in this book? Buy it online here
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Take a media fast
Do you ever get negative feedback? What about positive feedback? What about feedback that is just noise? It comes at us from everywhere, our friends, our family, the TV, the internet. We get so much information in our lives that sometimes even the sincere, the useful, the important things that mean the most to us just become noise. It ameliorates passion, love, and even self worth.
Does a strikingly beautiful woman cause you to appreciate your own unique beauty less? Does the latest news report about massive death tolls humble the memory of a lost loved one? Does a world full of buzzing make your own life seem less important?
So take a break. Maybe you will see some sort of difference.
Spend today avoiding stimulation. Avoid your daily newspaper, magazines, fiction, and chatter. Attack your responsibilities with focus, purpose, and drive. Maybe without all that noise, you can hear yourself better.
Does a strikingly beautiful woman cause you to appreciate your own unique beauty less? Does the latest news report about massive death tolls humble the memory of a lost loved one? Does a world full of buzzing make your own life seem less important?
So take a break. Maybe you will see some sort of difference.
Spend today avoiding stimulation. Avoid your daily newspaper, magazines, fiction, and chatter. Attack your responsibilities with focus, purpose, and drive. Maybe without all that noise, you can hear yourself better.
David Goggins is a Hero
David Goggins started out on a tour of Iraq in the Navy Seals. He came back with his experiences and had the urge to raise money for Veterans and their families. So, without ever having run a marathon in his life, he set out to run an ultra marathon. He did it by pushing his body to maniacal lengths, without anything but clear focus and drive. He completed that first ultra marathon despite having kidney failure and breaking all the bones in his feet. He still runs to this day, running towards that goal of raising 1 million dollars, despite having a physical hole in his heart.
This inspires. Every person has the tools to do what David Goggins did. We are made of the same molecules, the same cells that make up this tremendous man. He just started sooner. Maybe the only thing this man had over us is focus, drive, and raging blind ambition
You can read his blog here. You can't tell too much about what makes this amazing man tick, but you do get some idea of how much pain he undergoes, right from the horses mouth.
Read this Runners World article to learn more about David Goggins
Out of site, out of mind
Today, make an effort to de-clutter your space. It will de-clutter your mind as well. Take a few bags of books, clothes, and knick knacks to your local Goodwill or Salvation Army. Clear off your desk at work. Also make an effort to spend some time outside. Take a stroll through your neighborhood and get inspired by the open spaces. I guarantee your racing thoughts will be a bit less speedy after today.
7 billion and counting
I am special. There is no one in the world like me.
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
King of the Wild Frontier
"Make sure you're right, then go ahead" -Davy Crockett
Sometimes we are our own worst enemy, and, well, sometimes we aren't. This quote reminds me that my internal struggle doesn't have to be a big deal.
Today, practice having conviction.
Sometimes we are our own worst enemy, and, well, sometimes we aren't. This quote reminds me that my internal struggle doesn't have to be a big deal.
Today, practice having conviction.
Toxicity
Surround yourself with healthy people, and you will become healthy too. Pushing the negativity out of your life includes pushing away negative people.
Accepting and enabling a toxic person is selfish. Don't put up with toxicity because you need that extra friend, that extra love. Have some self respect, and expel negative influences out of your life. It is hard, but change is never easy.
4 Hour Work Week
What it's about
Tim Ferriss lives an awesome life. In this book he explains how we too can change our entire lives by rejecting the common path and forging our own by joining the "new rich". He inspires goals, and gives rudimentary business advice and suggestions.
Why it inspires
Although his techniques are unorthodox, it is fun to imagine a life where we aren't stuck in a box, being forced to work until a miracle age when we can stop. You too can travel the world on all the money you need by starting a business that makes money for you. It sounds plausible, and if anything, it can convince you to do something you may never have thought of doing before.
Who might be interested
Someone who is thinking about starting their own business. Someone on the fence about a career change. Someone who doesn't know what they want to do for a living. A salaried worker.
Buy online now!
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This is what my T-Shirt Says Today
Those who are different change the world, those who are the same keep it that way
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Make the right associations
I seek healthy strong relationships with healthy strong people like me.
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Don't second guess...
I am in touch with my emotions and I trust myself completely.
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Are you waiting?
You are the one You've been waiting for
-Feather Mesa, elder of the Hopi Nation, Arizona
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
-Feather Mesa, elder of the Hopi Nation, Arizona
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Love yourself Music
Music is powerful. It can make us laugh, cry, dance, sing, express the whole gamit of emotions. Need a pick me up? Create your own power playlist with music that makes you get up and go. Here is a selection of music that pumps me up.
Post in the comments what your fight song is! I'll add it to the list
- I Will Survive by Gloria Gayner
- I Have Confidence sung by Julie Andrews in The Sound of Music
- Lose Yourself by Eminem
- Video by India.Arie
- Unpretty by TLC
- I'm a Survivor by Destiny's Child
- Born This Way by Lady Gaga
Post in the comments what your fight song is! I'll add it to the list
Health is Beauty
An affirmation for you
My body is a perfect machine and I feed it a bountiful harvest of greens
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
My body is a perfect machine and I feed it a bountiful harvest of greens
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Affirm yourself
Affirmations are important because it helps program your brain. No, its not selfish. Fill your mind with a few good things and maybe there won't be any room for any of those negative ones.
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Here is your first one!
You are a success because you are living on purpose.
Use the affirmations you see on this site by repeating them to yourself whenever you get a chance. Repeat it to yourself all day long if you can. Stare into your beautiful eyes in the mirror and say them aloud. Say it until you believe it.
Here is your first one!
You are a success because you are living on purpose.
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